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Early this month, Don Dizon Lugtu, a year-old single father, posted a photo of himself and his family on Facebook. In his caption, Don said the house has been his longtime dream for his children who, he added, are his inspiration. But something else caught the attention of netizens. His friends said the post might inspire people to dream big like Don. The original post currently has more than 6, likes and more than 1, shares. Did he reply to any of them?
Kaya mo naman magugustuhan ang isang tao kasi nakakasama mo muna, makakausap mo. It took a long time for him to get to this kind of peaceful state. He dated around, owned a gym, worked out a lot, and often went out drinking with his friends. He was also living with his parents, who bankrolled the gym. One day, he met a woman named Kris, then Don and Kris liked each other. They went out for three months, and then went their separate ways. A year later, Kris revealed to Don that she gave birth to fraternal twins. They were boys. They were his. Don refused to believe it at first.
But once he saw the photos of the one-year-olds, he knew right away they were his children. Sure ako. The kids were named Johnkiel and Dartlee. They were born October 8, but Johnkiel was born first. While Don was sure in his gut the boys were his sons, he wanted to go through the legal and legitimate process: he asked for a DNA test. When the arrived, his instincts were proven right. At the time, Kris was planning to leave the country so she decided to give custody of the children to Don.
Dumarating ako ng morning, kasi umiinom. Iniiwan ko sila sa room namin. Pagdating ko, gising na sila. Kailangan ko na magbago. Kailangan ko na mag-switch from binata to father. The change happened but it happened slowly. After a while, Don found himself embracing fatherhood, doing everything for his twins—from changing their diapers to cleaning their bottles and everything else in between. Kung saan sila pupunta, doon ako nakasunod. As in yayo. Ako nagpapakain. Tatalon kung gustong tumalon.
Iiyak na lang basta-basta, laging nag-aaway. He asked for countless pieces of advice from as many parents he encountered, starting from his own. He spent hours online researching how-tos on raising kids, guides on modern parenting. He would bring the kids to watch movies. And the boys loved going to the beach. They also liked going to the mall. On Sundays, Don would bring them to church. This was before the pandemic, of course. His favorite part about having boys, Don says, is that he gets to dress them up like himself. Don is a self-confessed fashion guy. In , Don closed down his gym, which prompted him to look for other sources of income to support the kids.
He tried to apply for jobs in Dubai and Japan, on a ship, or as a flight attendant. But none of the applications amounted to anything. In , his friends asked if he wanted to invest in a bar and restaurant called The Woods in Tarlac City. He ended up putting in all the money he had left. On its first month, The Woods was already a success, and eventually, Don was asked to manage it. The family had to adjust to his new schedule, but the single father admits he has become an expert at multitasking.
Pag meron akong time, tina-try ko. Everything was going well until the pandemic came. In , as the whole world was grappling with a pandemic, the Lugtu family was thrust into another kind of conundrum. Flashback to Don met a woman named Cindy. They dated and, after a year, called it quits. After the breakup, Cindy told Don that she might be pregnant. After taking the pregnancy test, however, the result came out negative.
The teasing would go on and Don would just keep dismissing it. Later on, however, when Sabrina was around four, Don started considering the half-meant jokes seriously. Looking back, Don realized Sabrina was born around a year after Cindy thought she was pregnant with his baby. Don, for the second time in his life, requested for a DNA test, which proved Sabrina was indeed his. Don is clearly a changed man now. Eventually, Don, Cindy, and Cindy's husband sat Sabrina down and told her the truth. Ikaw ang naging bunga ng pagmamahalan namin.
E, di dalawa na daddy ko? The more the merrier, di ba? Currently, Cindy and husband leave their children with their grandparents because the couple need to physically report to work every day. Following long and tedious conversations, Don, Cindy, and Cindy's husband decided for Sabrina to stay with her biological father for most days of the week.
Don admits that up to know, he still has to adjust to living with an eight-year-old girl, whom he considers a wonderful surprise. Minsan naiinip sila na tatlo lang kami, hindi na sila nagpapansinan. Na-eenjoy nila pag may isa pang bata. Among the adults, all have been ironed out and forgiven, according to Don. On weekends, the children are with their mothers.
These days, as Don works from home, he is given to a lot of self-reflection. He takes pride in knowing he has come a long way from that year he was suddenly thrown into fatherhood. Doon ko hinahanap kasama ko. Maaga sila natutulog. May room ako sa baba, and three hours pa ako mag- stay-up after they sleep. Pero naisip ko din, kahit walang career basta maayos naman. Daddy Don takes pride in knowing he has come a long way from that year he was suddenly thrown into fatherhood.
Photo courtesy of Don Dizon. Don says he spent hours online researching how-tos on raising kids, guides on modern parenting. Don admits he received a barrage of messages from strangers, among them romantic proposals after he posted that he's looking for an "ilaw ng tahanan. With twin sons Johnkiel and Dartlee.Single father looking for some fun
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